What is prostate milking? How do you milk your prostate?
A lot of people know very little about their (or their partners) prostate. Fewer know about prostate massage. Then even fewer still will have any idea what prostate milking is. Massage an milking are actually very closely related. Many of you who have spent the time to learn to utilise and benefit from regular prostate massages may have been milking your prostate without even knowing about it. But what exactly is “milking”?
Prostate milking is a term which refers to the prostatic fluid that is often expelled from the penis during prostate stimulation. The liquid is usually a bit like milk in colour and consistency unlike regular ejaculate. If you are doing your prostate milking correctly, this will pretty much constantly ooze from your penis throughout a session.
Now, before we head into the specifics, it’s worth taking a little time to discuss the prostate and how to find it. If you already know this, feel free to skip ahead to find out the difference between prostate massage and prostate milking, and how you can do it yourself.
What is the prostate?
The first part of prostate milking is actually knowing what you’re supposed to be milking. The prostate gland is a small gland located just below the bladder in men. It is usually around the size and shape of a walnut, but in older men it can be larger, sometimes up to the size of a plum.
The prostate has two main functions in the male body. The first is to act as a valve, controlling the route to your penis and switching between urine and ejaculate at the appropriate times. The second function is to produce prostatic liquids, which get mixed with your sperm and help to protect them as they enter a woman’s vagina.
How to find your prostate
Due to the unusual location of the prostate gland, it is a little difficult to actually reach. You have two options when trying to find and stimulate it. Internal and external.
Finding your prostate internally involves something actually entering your anus. A lot of men will wonder if doing this means they are gay. Don’t worry, this is actually a really common question. Participating in any kind of anal activity doesn’t instantly make you gay. Some gay men also don’t like anal either. The only thing deciding your sexuality is what you are interested in. So why miss out on lots of health benefits just by worrying about what people might think!
Back on topic, internal prostate massage is usually done with a finger, or a prostate massager, and a lot of lube. If you plan on using your finger, you can wear a glove if you want. You will usually need to insert it up to the second joint to be able to reach your prostate. If you find you are unable to reach it, you might want to look into a prostate massager which is specially designed to hit the right spot.
Externally, your only option is to approach the prostate by stimulating the perineum. This is the area between your scrotum and anus, and is sometimes referred to as the taint. The rear part of the perineum, behind the penile bulb, is a softer area and by applying pressure to it, you can indirectly stimulate the prostate gland.
Once you’ve found it, it is a simple matter of applying some stimulation to it. This is usually done with some rubbing or gentle pressure, or if you are using a massager, some light vibration.
It can take some time to find your prostate gland, so don’t worry if you don’t find it immediately. A lot of people might tell you that you’ll know when you find it, because the feeling is so different to other parts of your body. While this is true for a lot of men, it isn’t the same for everyone, so if you don’t find yours for a while don’t be disheartened. Just keep at it and before long you’ll be a pro!
What’s the difference between prostate massage and prostate milking?Prostate milking and prostate massage are often terms that are used interchangeably. In fact they are so similar, it can be quite difficult to actually find a reason for there to be two different terms in the first place. The main difference seems to come down to the intent of the practitioner.
While prostate massage usually tends to be all about pleasure, those who choose to milk their prostate are usually doing so for health reasons. The prostate throughout your life will be constantly producing the liquids that it uses to keep your sperm healthy. If you aren’t regularly expelling these liquids, then they can build up over time.
Why would I want to milk my prostate?
As the prostate is constantly producing prostatic fluid throughout your life. Too much of a build up of these liquids can cause some negative effects. There are two effects in particular you should be wary of, as these can cause long term damage to your prostate.
The first, is that the liquids and fluids inside the prostate can become contaminated in some way. Most of the time this contamination will be bacterial. This can lead to infections and diseases which can cause long term damage to your prostate and surrounding area.
The other potential thing is that over time a build up of these liquids could cause the prostate to increase in size. This carries it’s own set of risks. A prostate of increased size can cause things like retrograde ejaculation (where the ejaculatory fluid moves backwards up your pipes and into the bladder), painful urination, needing to urinate all the time, or even difficulty maintaining erections.
So we have some idea of what prostate milking is and why you’d want to do it. But how exactly?
How do I milk my prostate?
The process of prostate milking is essentially identical to prostate massage. You enter your anus with a finger or prostate massager, and proceed to stimulate the prostate. The method you use in your massage will depend on what you choose to use use, but if you are unsure about anything, check out our guides on stimulating the prostate, and using a prostate massager. In milking though, you aren’t really aiming to come to any kind of sexual climax, but to simply expel as much of the prostatic fluid as possible during your session.
To accomplish this, it is important to try and avoid coming to any kind of sexual climax. When a man has a traditional orgasm and ejaculation, he will enter into a refractory period. This is a period of time in which the man will be unable to orgasm again, and for most men, they find it very difficult to become aroused again.
If a man enters the refractory period by having a traditional orgasm during a prostate milking session, he will often find that the act of massaging the prostate gland becomes much less pleasurable, and in some cases outright irritating. As your goal during milking is to expel as much of the prostatic fluid stored up as possible, you will need to keep going for a longer period than normal, and a refractory period will completely counter this goal.
While having a traditional orgasm is usually counter intuitive, you may find yourself able to have a different kind of orgasm. A prostatic orgasm is an entirely different experience. If you want to know what this might be like, check out our article on what a prostate massage feels like. The key point is that a prostatic orgasm doesn’t cause a man to enter a refractory period, so he will be able to continue massaging the prostate and continue enjoying it just as much. Who said a health regime needs to be unpleasant?
Whichever method you choose to go towards, just keep focusing on what you are doing and trying to avoid any distractions. The amount of fluid you expel during a session can be very large, so be prepared before you start with enough tissues or a towel to cleanup when you are done. Depending on your own experience with milking, it might even be worth laying a towel down underneath you so you don’t have to worry about it mid session.
When should I prostate massage?
As prostate milking is often done for health reasons, it is important to know when it is appropriate to utilise. In men with a normal, healthy prostate gland, milking to expel the built up fluids should be done somewhere around twice a month. You can do it more often if you want, and as it is usually an enjoyable process, some men like to perform prostate massage and milking several times a week.
You must take care to remember though, the prostate is a delicate internal organ. When touching and stimulating it, you need to try and be gentle, and pay attention to your body. Prostate exhaustion is also a thing, so if you feel like your prostate is getting a little tired out, give it a rest and let it recover.
If you have some variants of prostatic infections or disease, milking your prostate might not only be unhelpful, but could make the situation much worse. If you are aware of any kind of prostate problems you already have, be sure to consult your doctor before beginning any prostate massaging regime. Equally if you become aware of any pain or unusual feelings during your sessions, you should see a doctor. With sensitive areas like this it’s always better to be safe than sorry!
Hopefully this will have given you some idea as to what exactly prostate milking is, and maybe have inspired you to give it a try yourself. The easiest way is always with a prostate massage toy, so be sure to check out our range here!